Traditionally the onus was on the bride to set the tone of the wedding, from the décor of the reception, through to the flowers at the altar and the wedding invitations, as shown in your customized wedding invitation samples. However, nowadays the groom is expected to provide some input concerning the aesthetics of the event, and in going through the customized wedding invitation samples. Although the idea of the wedding is to unite the two people in question, some couples will segregate their wedding cards to the specifications of husband and wife. This lends an interesting quality to your customized cards and allows for a more interesting and decorative layout. In order to keep things neat and comprehensive, you may want to send out a bundle of invitations for your wedding-related events, such as bridal showers and stag nights, together with your main event details. This will prevent people from losing one or more of your separate invitations and will allow them to make time for each of your occasions in one go. This bundled approach also allows you to add an additional creative dimension to your presentation. You could, for instance, include a calendar with pre-circled dates. You could also include maps with driving directions and timelines of events.
The invitations to the receptions and parties before and after the wedding could be presented on smaller cards within one large customized card – dedicated to the wedding itself. It is essential to remember that this event is largely for the guests. As such, do not focus too much on yourselves in the invitations, as the idea is to get people excited about going. This involves planning precisely how many people the chosen establishment is able to support, as the last thing you want to do is turn people away at the door, especially if they have taken time off work to attend your ceremony. You also need to decide if you are going to divide the room into bride and groom guests. The modern consensus is that this lends a ‘them and us’ segregated feeling to the wedding and will set a negative tone for the rest of the evening. The idea is to bring the two families, and the two groups of friends, together.
If you are having a cross-cultural wedding, make sure to take account of the customs and traditions of both parties. Remember that people are easily offended with respect to their heritage and you do not want a resentful atmosphere pervading what should be a cheerful event. Some people circumvent this issue by having two separate ceremonies, one observing the rituals of the bride’s background, and one in honor of the groom’s traditions. Alternatively, you can choose to pursue a neutral theme, but it is possible that you will end up offending both sides in this case. If both bride and groom only have loose associations with their nationalities, religions and heritages, it may be possible to attempt to combine the two. You can creatively intertwine foods and symbols in order to signify unity amongst the families as a result of the marriage.